Before I had children, the idea of twins never crossed my mind. Even when I heard other women wish and hope for twins, it was never something I wished and hoped for. Don’t get me wrong. I always thought of twins as something adorable and cute, but never for one second desired twins for myself. The thought just never penetrated my mind for even a second. It seemed so far fetched to even think of the possibility a giving birth to two little babies at the same time! It’s funny how we think we know ourselves; then God just steps in and really shows us that what we know about ourselves doesn’t even matter! Not only did I give birth to a beautiful boy and girl almost six years ago, but God went and did his magic blessing me with another boy and girl just one year ago! Won’t he do it!

I am seriously over blessed! My children give me so much joy! Being a mother to two sets of twins, I now consider myself a “twin expert.” I have learned so much over the years about twins, mostly through trial and error. The following are four things I wish I knew about twins from the beginning.

SOCIALIZING WITH OTHERS WILL NOT BE A PRIORITY

When my older twins (Adaeze and Arinze) started pre-school, they had no interest in engaging in play or conversation with anyone but themselves. They definitely had a “no new friends” mindset. Thankfully, over time, they developed friendships with others but its clear that their preference of who to spend time with is each other. Because of this, I definitely recommend starting twins in school as early as possible. Adaeze and Arinze started school at age 2. I’ll be doing the same with the younger twins (Akunna and Ahanna).

WHEN IT COMES TO TOYS AND GAMES, DON’T BOTHER BUYING TWO OF EVERYTHING

Both Adaeze and Arinze and Akunna and Ahanna love doing everything together. I tend to buy two items of certain toys like tablets and toy cars but they still continue to share one tablet of one toy. And yes, they often times fight over that one toy even though there are two of them! If I had known this, I probably would have refrained of buying two of everything!

WHEN TWIN TODDLERS FIGHT, STAY OUT OF THE WAY

Growing up, I fought with my sister here and there. We are three years apart. But the way my children fight with each other is on another level. As early as age 1, these sets can fight and argue so intensely and then before you know it, they are laughing and hugging each other. I’ve learned that when they fight, to just let them do their thing. They usually hug it out on their own. When they get older though, I may have to intervene a bit more. I’m not ready for that kind of fighting!

THEIR LOYALTY TO EACH OTHER IS REAL

The way these kids defend each other is crazy! If one gets in trouble, the other will speak to me or my husband on their behalf. Even at school, their teachers share stories with me of how they really look out for each other. The younger ones have gotten to this stage yet, but I wouldn’t be surprised if they start defending each other soon!

For those of you who are twins, parents of twins, related to twins, or know of twins, what are some of your frustrations or inspirations about twins?

Until next time,

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